No, no, no! Not again! Why is it that I’m hearing so much about friends cheating on friends?! The heck is this world coming to?
Separation is seen in movies, tv shows, boasted about in songs; what the heck!? Ok, so yes, I’m a Christian and to me, it’s not right to be cheating on your spouse/gf/bf… but still! Who in the RIGHT mind would even think of it?
Let’s start at square 1…What’s one’s purpose of getting into a relationship? Is it to gain personal pleasure? Whether that “pleasure” be physical satisfaction, emotional stability, or for a social status; sounds familiar?
Square 2… once in a relationship, does one plan on how long they’ll be with that person that they’ve shown interest in? Is it something couples even think about these days? Is it something they just want to do a test run with? I mean I’ve had my taste of bitterness, playa hatas, and even rebounders.. It’s usually short-lived because those people are looking for healing; something to “ease the pain just for the mean time”.
Now from here, this is when the cheating may begin…
Square 3… All right, I’ve gotten to know you, we’ve hung out several times, but now I’m bored; Ooh I’ve met a new friend in the circle, so let’s hang out ;) *wink wink nudge nudge* So meanwhile, still dating here with your current bf/gf, and then KABOOM! You’re infatuated with a friend of a friend and you start hanging out.
Square 3… option 2… All right, I’ve gotten to know you, we’ve already kicked off the emotional connection in our relationship. We can talk about anything because we understand each other, and there’s no one else I can trust… then all of a sudden… KABOOM! They go ahead and share the stories you’ve shared with them, where at the time you thought they’d respect you and not say anything to anyone..
There many other Square 3s, but I’ll just keep it at that, focussing more on the first example.
I can count 3 groups of friends that have been going through this experience. Since it’s been nearly 4-5 years since I’ve personally been active in a gf/bf relationship, I can see that relationships are something people my age really need to prepare for.
Funny enough, one night I was explaining to a friend that my view on dating and courtship was that of getting to know people (friends), and then hope for someone I will be attracted to and then get to know on a deeper level when the time comes.. they argued that, “it’s not like that”. And so i requested for an explanation.. and they basically said that, “You’ve got to get to know people before you can say you can date them.” - referring to the fact that one’s gotta get to know people exclusively then decide on who you will date… HA! That’s how I used to think, but now come to think of it; it’s a waste of time to want to get to know people exclusively one, by one… it’s so much easier to do that when you have a group of friends/are out with others, other than that person… Gives you an idea of who and what type of people they really are - their true colour, so to speak is revealed..
Anyways, I’m actually falling asleep as I type this post because this is boring! People need to get their heads on straight and determine what it is they really want in a relationship - friendship, courtship, acquaintance. It annoys me when people just want to get to know people exclusively, and once you get what you need… that’s the end of your contribution to their life!
Random rant right there.. hope something comes to heart :)
PS. I’m really planning to get started on more of my blog so that people who need to hear or read something, actually benefit from this…